8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. 9 Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.—Philippians 4:8-9
This is a verse of scripture I believe is so appropriate for Christians today. There are many things we see and hear that are designed to get us riled up. Whether we see it on television, hear it on the radio; or see it on the various forms of Social Media. The enemy of our souls wants to fill us with anger, hatred, frustration and despair.
Unfortunately, these are also found within the walls of our homes and within the sanctity of the marital relationship. What’s really sad about this is: we have become so numb to feeling this way that we think it is normal. But that is not the way it should be.
God has given us answers to facing the difficulties of life and they are found in the Bible. One way is to change the way we think. Our thinking is a prevailing source of both our joys and our sorrows. I know that may seem overly simplistic but the scriptures are full of both directives and examples of how a person’s way of thinking influences him or her.
We are the ‘captain’ of our ship when it comes to our thought-life. In other words, we are in control and we have the ability to choose to think good things or not. Regardless, of what is going on or what has happened on the outside; the way we think about things is totally our choice.
So, what does this have to do with marriages? EVERYTHING!
Some of our most epic battles happen within the marriage relationship. Whether it is shown outwardly or not, there is much contention in many marriages. For some, there is silent contempt. That is why, when the couple breaks up, people say: “they always seemed to be the nicest couple” or “they never argued”. The lack of the outward show of anger or frustration does not mean it is not there.
However, if we can only learn to work on and change the way we think about a thing and especially our spouses, we can see very real changes in our lives. Because changing our thoughts will change us on the inside; this will lead to inner-peace and ultimately more peace on the outside.
As the verse above suggests, when we think the thoughts of purity, love, truth, etc., we are actually calling the very presence of God into our midst. How different our lives would be if we, when facing marital conflict, would stop and begin to think of good—concerning our spouse? What if we would find something…anything…to compliment them on? Certainly, it would be difficult to be angry or frustrated while thinking of good things.
So, my friends, let us start practicing right now—think of something good concerning your spouse—do it on purpose. Practicing thinking good thoughts about our spouses and anything else will bring the Peace of God on the scene, which will benefit our situations greatly.
Let Peace Rule
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