Unconditional Vows with Conditional Love

 Love Never FailsUNCONDITIONAL, a. Absolute; unreserved; or not limited by any conditions.

CONDITIONAL, a. Containing or depending on a condition or conditions; made with limitations; not absolute; made or granted on certain terms.

For those of us who are or were married, regardless of how long ago…we must remember certain segments of the vow we made before “God and these witnesses present.” Those vows contained, in some part, the promise to:

“…To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish ’till death do us part….”

Although, in the Christian tradition, most marriage ceremonies contained these words to some degree and the couple willingly pledged to do so but for many, the love required to carry it out must not have been present. Otherwise, many Christians would not be so willing to ‘dump it all’ when things get tough.

If this were not the case, then why is divorce among Christians equal to or surpassing those who are not professing active adherence to Biblical principles? It seems that we have conditions attached to that which should be unconditional. Sometimes it seems like we are saying: I will love you until someone better comes along; or I will hold on to you as long as you pull your weight financially; or I will stand with you unless your health puts too great a strain on me…and so on.

My friends, this should not be! If anyone should be an example of the love and grace of God—then we should be! Circumstances will come and go but it is real love that will stand the test of time. In other words; “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance” (1 Corinthians 13:7).

Although, we are not perfect or faultless, we can point to help that extend beyond ourselves. As Believers, we are saying that we have something (someone) within us who enables us to stand when everyone else is falling. It is our faith that enables us to show the world that there is a better way…because there is!

Sure, during the course of a marriage, we will face some trying circumstances but we must look for and expect God’s Word to provide the truth that will “make us free” (John 8:32). For therein, will we also find the help and strength needed to overcome the temptation to run when we should stand. Of course, there are times when due to circumstances, we cannot remain together but that should be the exception and not the rule.

God’s love towards us is absolutely unconditional and we should be examples of that unconditional love, not just in receiving it but in giving it as well—especially within our marriages. So, let us seek Him as to how to show our spouses the God-kind of unconditional love.

Have Faith1st

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Sebastian is a Christian, Author and Church Leadership trainer. His ministry calling, love for God, and His people; has led him into ministry of all types for over thirty years. He and his wife enjoy helping people in their walk of faith and finding solutions to the struggles of life, especially in the area of healing and marriage. Faith1st Blog is designed to open and continue the discussion on the subject of biblical "faith" as a "living" element of the Christian life. - "the just shall live by faith" - Habakkuk 2:4; Romans 1:17; Galatians 3:11; Hebrews 10:38 (KJV).

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2 comments on “Unconditional Vows with Conditional Love
  1. nopew says:

    Again I affirm these solid, biting words. My wife and I have been through some tough times, but when we married giving up was not in our vocabulary. If it is not there you can’t do it! Over the last few years the problem of divorce and re-marriage has become a burden for me. I see pastors doing it, and then I find especially in congregations where board members have done the same. Hmm. I agree, love has become a convenience instead of a covenant.

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  2. Sure! God’s love is absolutely unconditional and that is what God requires from us. Thank you for reaching out.

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